In the space of 1 week, I managed to travel forward in time to see the impact of something that happened in the past, and to see how something that is happening now, may end up being the future. Confused? I bet!
Here’s how it worked out. Two weeks ago a good friend of mine decided to quit football coaching due to personal reasons. I knew he had been having problems with his wife and with the pressure of his 4 kids, it was becoming all too much. Then a few days later I heard that their relationship had been going sour for quite a while and that finally the kids asked him to leave.
Fast forward to yesterday, I bumped into an old neighbour who had split from his wife after years of fighting (and cheating). He mentioned to me yesterday that his eldest son had been expelled from school for continuous bad behaviour. Unfortunately, the bad atmosphere and environment very much contributed to this situation, a total disregard on the part of the parents.
Move back in time. I spoke to my friend two days back and told him that in all this, I felt very sorry for their 4 kids. These are lovely kids and one can only imagine the stress they must be feeling and how they are so unaware of what a difficult path they have ahead of them in all this.
It’s so important, no, actually, imperative that couples accept their situation and work amicably to ensure that the impact on children is minimal as possible. My friend commented how he wants to move abroad for a while to get his head clear. My advice was that this would be a wrong move, that he needs to be somewhere within reach, just in case.
When there are children, it means responsibility to the very end. Our regard for their welfare ends when we breathe our last breath.
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